How can we find time
in these busy, fast track and overwhelming life and work experiences to find
balance in our life? Have you ever asked yourself that question?
Have you ever
complaint that you don't have enough time to do everything you want to do? Have
you ever wish to have balance between your personal and profession life? We all
love to!
Before that, before
any approach to any resolutions for our complaints, we have to find out what we
mean by balance? Because sometimes balance is a different experience for
different people, or we have a different expectation of what it means to have
balance in life! What I want to know is this; what does balance mean to you?
What would you call a balanced life?
So, I am looking
forward to your answer to this question right now! Let's get a piece of paper
and write down what balance means to you! For example;
• To have time for yourself to do what you want to do.
• To have time for others, such as family members, wife, husband,
children or friends.
• To have time for pursuing your interests in life.
• To travel and have fun.
• To sit and do nothing... !
• To play your musical instruments.
• To take the love of your life to classical music concerts, a
romantic dinner or do something special.
• To go to Rock & Roll concerts and let it rock...
!
• To be able to read, write or think anytime you want.
• To go places without reservations, or concerns about time or
money.
So, if we look at
everything that you have said, what do we get?
All that you all want
is to have more time in life to spend it with your family, spend it doing what
it seems fun to you, pursuing interests in life, enjoying your life and coming
home soon to everything you love. Right? Or at least close enough.
But what is in the
way? Who is stopping you?
You are! You might
ask, how? OK, let's see!
• Who is running your business?
• Who is driving your car?
• Who is not keeping himself/herself of his/her schedule?
• Who is complaining that he/she has no time?
• Who is deciding for you?
• Who is holding on to so much past upsets in his/her head and
heart that there are no room for possibility?
• Who is holding on to so much resentments and regrets in life and
pointing the finger to everyone except himself/herself?
• Who is making promises to himself/herself or others with no
intention of keeping them?
• Who is breaking promises and agreements left and right and
always having so many excuses and justifications for it?
• Who is hiring a productivity or life coach and then doing
whatever he or she wants anyway?
You! Yes, you! Don't
act like you don't know what I am talking about!
I have to tell you
this right now; I want you to stop writing notes, because these notes will
never be useful to you, if you're not listening. If you are not listening like
your life is depending on it, and you know what, your happiness, joy and
fulfillment is depending on it, so your life is depending on it! Get it?
So please listen and
apply the distinctions that I am talking to you about directly in your life. So
let's begin.
• Do you know you have an inner voice that decides for you?
• Do you know that you always listen to that voice anyway?
• Are you aware that you always discus your options with that
inner voice? And somehow you are always Right about your choice?
• Are you aware of the impact that listening to that voice has on
you?
You got to answer all
the above questions with authenticity and complete interest to having a
breakthrough in your productivity. When you get that you do have that Inner
Chatter, then we can move on to the next set of questions;
• What is your internal dialogue about free time? In other words,
what are you constantly complain about your free time? Do you any? I am sure
you do.
• What is your internal dialogue about balance in life? Or, again,
what are you constantly complain about your life balance? Is there any balance?
Would you like to have more? What is the main complaint?
• What decisions have you made about life in general? When you are
complain about life and lack of balance, what do you decide about life?
• What is your inner dialogue about your staff or your team
members? Or about how they work that might cause you not having time?
• What is your inner dialogue about your business? Is it just
sucking your time?
• What decisions have you made about business in general?
Now stop and review
all of your thoughts about your inner chatter and your inner dialogue;
• Can you see that it is really busy in your head?
• Do you see what's going on in there?
• Can you recognize that chatter in your head?
• It is really busy... it is not nice... it is mostly negative...
in some cases even condescending and belittling to yourself and to others.
Here the punch! There
is something in it for you complaining... there is a juice, like a satisfaction
for you in your complaints;
• What are you gaining by continuing to entertain these inner
dialogues? You are becoming Right about your complain?
• Are you justifying your lack of having balance in your life?
• Are you using your inner chatter to come with reasoning and
explanations about why you can't have balance in your life?
• What is the decision you made about yourself and your abilities
to have balance? Such as; it is impassible... or I can't do it... or even; It
can't get done.
Yes, what you are
gaining by entertaining this inner dialogue is lack of responsibility for
having balance in life.
You might say by now,
what do you mean by that? Look, if you want to be right about;
• You have no time.
• Your family is not supporting you.
• Your spouse or your kids need all of your time.
• Your staff is not a good staff.
• Your business is not growing.
• Your business is not the right business.
• You have to work hard.
• Nobody knows your sorrow.
• Nobody understands the things that you have to do you.
• And blah, blah, blah
Then nobody can keep
you responsible or hold you accountable for having balance in your life.
If you really look at
your daily schedule, you see how much time you're wasting. You need to take a
hard core look at what you really are committed to! Because you might really
not be committed to success! Every day, you see people who are saying something
and doing something else! Like you, here we are at today, what happened to your
New Year resolution? Gone with the wind! What happened? You're the same person,
aren't you? But if you notice, you will see this familiar pattern each time
that you make such a commitment. It won't take that long for everything go down
the tube.
• Why is this so? Because you're right!
• You're right about you're inabilities!
• You are right about your lack of self esteem.
• You are right about your shortage of luck.
• You're continued to do the same mistake over and over and over
again.
As Rita Mae Brown said,
The definition of
insanity is doing the same thing, over and over again, expecting different
results.
So, let's look again
and see what your repetition in your life is?
What is the thing that
you keep doing and not getting a different result?
Could be something
like:
• Not keeping your promises to leave your business at a certain
time?
• Not making sure you stay on your schedule all the time?
• Not holding yourself and your staff accountable for producing
results?
• Keep changing your personal and family schedule because you are
behind on your business schedule?
• Not saving money to do your fun activities and your hobbies?
• Not listening to people who care about you?
• Not following your coach's or consultant's leads?
• And so much more...
And when you look
closely and dig deeply you will see, again, what you are gaining is;
"Not being able to!"
You might ask; so,
what can I do about it? Or what is the way out of this cycle?
Now it is the time to
get your notebooks out! Start writing after each question;
• First and main step is to recognize and acknowledge the inner
dialogue and the texture of it. This means how it is showing up in your life
and how it is manifesting itself in your life.
• Second step is to recognize and understand the payoff of that
way of thinking and what are you gaining out of it.
• After that you need to totally own it and become responsible for
the outcome of your former way of thinking and all the upsets and resentments
that you have created by entertaining all this nonsense.
• Now it is the time to forget you. Totally forget yourself and
make a new promise. Not from the past experiences, that you know how to make a
change by promising something that you were not sure if you were keeping it or
not! But from a new place, called Possibility!
• What is possible out of you having balance in life and business?
What is possible from
you having a fulfilled life and relationships?
What is the
possibility you are creating for your life and your business now, from nothing
but clean slate and open space, without letting anything else get into it but
pure and unused possibility?
• Now, look at your life and your business and see what practices
you are doing that do not empower your possibility and are not correlated to
that possibility or do not fit in with it.
• Start eliminating those practices and create a new set of
practices to replace them.
• Open your schedule book, either on your day timer calendar or
your electronic calendar and redesign your daily activities and schedule. Yes!
Throw away all of your old schedule and come up with a new one. New
possibility, new mind set and new schedule.
• You have to go through your entire year and do what I am
coaching you to do in your calendar for a year in advance.
• Schedule your vacations and days off first. Log them in your
calendar and do not change them. Announce them to your family and even buy the
tickets and it is on!
• Then schedule your fun activities that you care about the most.
You need to nurture your mind as much as you are nurturing your body. I know
that for some of you, this is a foreign concept. So, log in your book all the
events you like to participate in, or go to, or do! Concerts, golf, tennis,
picnics and so forth.
• Log in your closing time. The time that you are going home. Log
it in and do not change it.
• Now you have all of your free time on your calendar so that you
can design your working hours. Let's do it.
• Stop complaining about "you don't have time"! Stop
nagging, bitching and complaining and you will have enough time.
• As I always say:
Do you want to be
happy?
Stop complaining!
Do you want to be
effective?
Stop complaining!
Do you want to be
successful?
Stop complaining!
Do you want to be
fulfilled?
Stop complaining!
Do you want to enjoy
your life to the end?
STOP COMPLAINING!
• Add 15% to 20% time to every activity you are scheduling in your
book. Call it emergency and interruption time. You can responsibly schedule
your interruption and emergency times. By the end of the day, you will either
find that you have used that time (which makes you a really productive person
because you kept to your schedule) or that you have not used it and you now
have some free time on your hands to do whatever needs to get done. That is,
again, productivity. So, either way you will be more productive.
• Review your daily and weekly calendar everyday. Make sure that
if you need any adjustment you do it immediately, before it gets too late.
• Now you need to make sure all of your family members and team
members are aware of your schedule and most importantly, they are aware of your
commitment to keep yourself on that schedule.
Now remember this: If
it is not in your schedule it will not get done. And you are the person who can
keep it on your schedule, nobody else.
The key to your
success in this process is "Doing It" not thinking about it and not
trying it. Doing it is what makes the biggest difference.
I know what you are
thinking? It is easier to say vs. to do! You are absolutely right!
However, you have to
make a clear choice here! Do you want to be right about "it is not going
to work" or do you want to have more balance in your life?
I am going to leave
you with a great quote from one of the most successful business people in the
world, Mr. Henry Ford, "Whether you think you can, or think you can't,
you're right".
From this point on, it
is your choice.
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